Thursday, February 26, 2009

tough questions

Yesterday as I was doling out sub sandwiches, buckling my shoes and watching for the babysitter to arrive, Mr. T asked me the following question:
Mom? What does 'do it' mean? The ten year olds in my class always say it and they laugh. What are they talking about?
The babysitter arrived, two younger brother sat at the kitchen table with my curious nine year old and I had no time, no opportunity to answer. But tonight I will, and so begins the Answering of Tough Questions Prompted by Evil Older Kids. It's moments like these that make watching my kids grow up No Fun At All.
But I am happy he feels all right about asking me these things. That's the best stamp of approval I get on my parenting.
Now I have to fill the birdfeeders before the winter storm hits this afternoon--oh to talk about those birds and maybe some bees instead of the other kind.


  1. Ugh.

    I agree that's a great parental stamp of approval. But I'd also be filled with dread.

    Your kids are so lucky to have you as their mom. Just a friendly reminder. :)

  2. Don't you just love getting those questions? And they always come at the worst times.

  3. Oh, good luck on that. Kitty may only be 16 months, but I'm already dreading that day.

    But you're are lucky that your little men feel comfy asking you. thought.....could Big Daddy take on this one??? Or could you do it together? At least share teh pressure?

  4. I am totally dreading those days, that's all I can say. I imagine that if anyone can field those kinds of questions with proper aplomb, it would be you.

  5. Ooh girl, I remember those questions. And now my youngest is even asking them. I always found that when the questions get more difficult and the kids get a little more uncomfortable, the car is a great place to talk about them. We both get to look ahead while we talk, no one is there to interrupt (leave the cell at home) and you can keep driving and driving until the conversation is done!
    Just an idea for the future!

  6. And so begins the long and winding road of "The Talk". Because the alternative of them blundering along toward discovery or asking one's mother-in-law is usually less appealing than a talk that makes even the best Mama squirm.

  7. Oh dear. And so it begins.
    Good luck!

  8. every time i give to 'em straight, my 10 year old says "enough" about two sentences in....

  9. Oh dude. You are in trouble. ;-)

  10. Hm. Maybe the 10-yr-olds mean run marathons, like the Nike "Just Do It"? Nah, I didn't think so.

  11. Tweet Tweet, buzz buzz. I bet this will be the first talk of many. I'm keeping a good thought for you.

    My "love me, love me not" post is up. I hope you like it. :D

    - Julia

  12. It's so cool when kids can ask us those questions though. I love it! We have so many chickens etc that we know ALL about what "it" is. Alas that daddy chickens are such cavemen!

  13. Actually, I don't think you want to wait until he's much older to tackle the question. It's less embarrassing in the long run if you start having the conversations now.

    My teens and I can discuss oral sex freely--that may sound scary to you now, but believe me when I say that you'll want to be able to talk about it at the dinner table when you hear that kids from the high school are doing it.


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