Thursday, March 12, 2009

this is sweet because he's 9, not 39

Scene: breakfast with Mr. T--he's munching a bagel and I'm writing the day's to-do list. NPR's Morning Edition is playing on the radio--a report about a fashionista living on a budget to save money. She goes to the library for free internet, practices tai chi in the park instead of joining a gym and forgoes trips to Starbucks. "I'll do anything so I don't have to move back in with my parents," she says.

Me: (thinking to myself) Damn straight, sister. I remember when I was 18--I couldn't get out fast enough.

Mr. T: (looks up at me with the most honest expression) Well that's just nuts.

I'm blown away that he was paying any attention to the news--that thrills me. I'm also amazed that my kid can't imagine leaving--his remark was the greatest vote of confidence.

29 comments:

  1. My kids . . . I think they like living at home, free food, laundry, room and board - what's NOT to like.

    When I told my son he might want to get a job, after he graduated from college. My younger son asked, "Why?"
    I said, "So he can move out."
    YS said, "But..."
    I said, "Did you think we were going to support you forever? He's out of school, now."

    YS said, "I think I'll go on for my Masters."

    He's not stupid. Living is expensive.

    ReplyDelete
  2. I never once considered living with my folks -- even when times were tough and my mother said, "You can always move back home, you know." I always considered moving back an admission that The World had defeated me. I would. not. do. it.

    Now, I live in the same town with my husband's family. They operate under an entirely different set of priorities. His "younger" (33 yo) sister still lives at home (rent free). His oldest brother is a single dad and eats his mom's cooking 6 days a week. She also babysits his son free of charge. He figures, she's retired, so it gives her something "fun" to do.

    (Are you rolling your eyes? I am.)

    I understand moving back in with Mom and Dad if you have no other choice. But never having the desire to be on your own in the first place? C'mon! That I will never understand.

    ReplyDelete
  3. Isn't that just so sweet? My boys are always telling me that they don't want to leave home. I remember feeling that when I was little too. My older sis would always say, "trust me. you WILL want to leave when you are older." And that would just make me cry and cry. haha!

    ReplyDelete
  4. Mine told me he was going to live with me FOREVER. Or maybe build a house across the street.

    I pushed my first birdy out of the nest at 21. And moved far, far away. He's doing great.

    ReplyDelete
  5. That's hilarious. Iced coffee - totally up my nose now...

    ReplyDelete
  6. We have worked this out. The Boy plans to buy our neighbors' home from them because they are "old and will not need it when he is grown up".

    ReplyDelete
  7. To this day.. I could live with my mother

    ReplyDelete
  8. That is sweet but would be totally awful if he was 39 or even 29. I can't wait until my little man is loving NPR although right now he does enjoy the musical interludes.

    -Abby

    ReplyDelete
  9. How great to find a new blog. I so enjoyed your post about your faith. Next time I feel uneasy about talking about my faith,I will think of you and "at a place somewhere in Wisconsin this is OK". Be well.

    ReplyDelete
  10. Ha! I tell my kids often enough... "when you are 18 and move out...." I have no intention of having kids in their 20s in my home unless theer is dire need!

    ReplyDelete
  11. Well done! Now if you can just ease him into the idea by the time he is 22 (out of college) that home is in his own apartment :)!

    But for now, isn't it lovely he knows it is crazy to live anywhere but here!

    ReplyDelete
  12. My girls can't imagine moving out either. We'll see how Pete and I feel about that when they're 18.

    ReplyDelete
  13. Ahhhhh! That is seriously cute.

    Although maybe when he's 40 and still at home...we might not say ahhhh!

    My BF is hoping one of her boys is gay....then he'll have a beautifully decorated, spotless, perfect house she can decamp to when she's old and grey! I'm liking her logic! Shame I don't have boys!

    Living with my mother would give me a rash!

    ReplyDelete
  14. I feel the same way, Mr. T.

    I still want to live at home and be the baby.

    Is that so wrong???

    ReplyDelete
  15. Precious Youngest was going to buy a house on our street. Then she turned sixteen. I'm just sayin'.

    ReplyDelete
  16. They love us so much right now, don't they. A sweet memory to recall when they are 6 years older and driving us nuts.

    ReplyDelete
  17. The girls used to say that they were going to live in our old house with their husbands when they grew up (I'm not sure where they thought we were going to live!)

    Right now I tell J3 that he better start studying because our basement is not nice enough for him to live in--he will need to move out someday!

    And now that I have teenage boys who are generally foul and see me as nothing more than an obstacle to everything they want to do, sometimes I get so sad because I miss the sweet little boys who used to love me.

    ReplyDelete
  18. I love it when they say, "But won't we live with you forever?" Yeah, NO!

    ReplyDelete
  19. He must really love his Starbucks?

    Sorry. Couldn't resist.

    ReplyDelete
  20. I used to love it when my kids would say they wanted to live with me forever. So sweet.

    ReplyDelete
  21. That is so cute...when I was about junior-high age, I used to have nightmares about "living away from home", not having any skills or knowledge about how to go about it....After I'd been on my own for several years, married and divorced, I had nightmares that I was still living with my mom and dad. O the irony. *haha!*

    ReplyDelete
  22. Awww. I wish my 14 year old still said that. She's already breaking my heart with all her college plans. Of course, I should just be thankful she's got lofty goals...

    ReplyDelete
  23. I listened to that interview. Imagine--wearing last year's clothes!

    When he hits 18 he'll feel just the way you did--and surprise, surprise you'll be happy to see him go. Not in a bad way, of course.

    ReplyDelete
  24. I didn't think my boys would ever leave home! They came back a lot of times!

    ReplyDelete
  25. You're right, it is super sweet... because of his age. Love it!

    ReplyDelete

Spill it, reader.