Friday, May 29, 2009

better

Monday I got to have breakfast with my BFF Sarah. It was good--both the food and her company. Even though we talk almost every day on the phone, our face time was less rushed and interrupted by children clamouring for our attention. We didn't talk about anything of Major Importance. And it didn't matter.

Last night I got to have dinner with my former colleagues. Once upon a time, almost 15 years ago, there were 12 of us who got together once a month. Now, 5 remain in town, 3 remain at the school where we all once worked. These women are beautiful, brilliant and funny. I always leave their company feeling somehow improved. We hashed out Serious Cultural Issues (American Idol, John & Kate + 8, Julie & Julia). We shared inside knowledge on Local News. We exchanged books titles and decided our Summer Field Trips for this year. Time flies with them--9:00 at night when I'm home feels like bedtime. 9:00 at night when I'm out with them feels like we just got started.
Blessed and lucky indeed. Where would we be without our best girlfriends? How/where did you meet yours?

23 comments:

  1. I have had the same best girlfriend for 28 years. She was my aerobics teacher. One night, I was the only one who showed up for class. We looked at each other and said, "Screw aerobics, let's go drink beer".

    I'm in FL, she's in Appleton.
    I need a field trip to WI!!

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  2. Oh, YES. The galpals are a lifeline, aren't they? I'm so glad you've been able to have this time with them.

    My three best girlfriends are all very different--one was my roomie in college; one is 16 years older than I but makes me feel like we were sisters in a previous life; and one is a 71 year old lesbian whose commitment ceremony I was a witness at last summer.

    Now I feel all warm inside and like drinking with them.

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  3. Time with friends is so important. I look forward to my monthly martini nights with the girls...

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  4. My oldest friend, Debs, lived on the same street when I was growing up. We've been friends since 7 years old, mostly! I love her.

    Once, my husband said "WHO IS HE???" and I looked him in the eye with a very serious face and said "Debs". He cracked up. But seriously, my cronies and I have often talked about ditching our men and buying an apartment complex, and hanging a sign on the fence to say "booty calls only"!

    Some friends you've known for ever, and some you met yesterday and you just click immediately. Isn't that weird?

    Friends are the ones who are most honest with you, and love you no matter what. They are the ones you can call and say "Help!" and they come right over.

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  5. It's great that you still get together that way.
    I've met a couple of my best friends at work, and another at a yoga class.

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  6. I've had one girlfriend since we were 8 years old. Another one I met when we were both parents at the same preschool.

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  7. Are we sharing a brain, or what?

    I have many great friends, but it was wonderful to see Lorie the other night. We met in 8th grade, played field hockey together through high school and were each other's maid of honors.

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  8. I moved around so much growing up I didn't really retain any childhood froends. As an adult I'd have to say my closest friends are either from church or Junior League. Nothing like volunteering together to form a bond!

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  9. One I met in 2nd grade.
    Four more in college.
    The two most recent have been over the last couple of years at my current job.

    I've never been one to be part of giant group of girlfriends, but have been lucky enough over the years to have a small collection of wonderful women friends.

    Thanks for this post!

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  10. I cannot imagine life without the company of good women! I've met them through church, the kids, hobbies... there's potential for someone wonderful just about anywhere it seems.

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  11. I met my BFF 30 years ago, when I started high school. We were good friends through HS but didn't really get to be BFFs until about 20 years ago. I'm not really sure how that happened... lol

    Mary Alice is the one person in the whole world who loves me unconditionally. She knows EVERYTHING (even things she wishes she didn't!) and she loves me anyway. She gets me. She is patient and loving and good, but not averse to whacking me upside the head when I need it. And she would blush and cry if she read this. :)

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  12. What sad is I do not feel like I have any 'best girlfriends' :( :( :( Wish I did.

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  13. I have three excellent girlfriends, who were my bridesmaids too. What a great group they are. And we rarely get together as a group, they only know each other through me, but when we do we just all "click" because each one of them is nicer than the next.

    Plus they almost all have the same name which keeps things mighty interesting.

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  14. I'm so blessed. I met my best friend when I was a baby - no lie. Our moms were friends and she is five weeks older than I am. We've been friends ever since.

    We now live far apart (me in Wisconsin, her in Washington) and thus face-time is few and far between, but it's beyond WONDERFUL when we get it. Pretty precious that girl bond is.

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  15. PS: Sorry I haven't been around much lately. With the laptop out of commission (STILL!!!!), getting blogging time has been very rare.

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  16. The beauty of the AF is that I make great friends each move. So...all over! But my BFF I met in grade school.

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  17. I love your Serious Cultural Issues! Yes, girlfriends are priceless. My "best" GFs are former coworkers; we survived our Masters program together. We keep in touch by emails and make a point of at least one annual shopping trip. We'll do the Walk on the Child's Side in Madison together. Legislators, watch out!

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  18. What a great picture. I have met most of my girlfriends now from the kids my children played with in the past. I rarely let my kids play with a child whose mother I didn't like. I was weird that way.

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  19. I have a best friend back on Long Island who knows me inside and out and has been with me through some major traumas and ditto for me to her. Each birthday we send each other a 'birthday box' filled with things we collect all year long with we know/think the other will treasure. It's the highlight of my day, getting that box from Laura. We try to see each other at least once a year and when we do the miles between us fall away~

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  20. I have a best friend back on Long Island who knows me inside and out and has been with me through some major traumas and ditto for me to her. Each birthday we send each other a 'birthday box' filled with things we collect all year long with we know/think the other will treasure. It's the highlight of my day, getting that box from Laura. We try to see each other at least once a year and when we do the miles between us fall away~

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  21. I have a best friend back on Long Island who knows me inside and out and has been with me through some major traumas and ditto for me to her. Each birthday we send each other a 'birthday box' filled with things we collect all year long with we know/think the other will treasure. It's the highlight of my day, getting that box from Laura. We try to see each other at least once a year and when we do the miles between us fall away~

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  22. My BFF has always been my sis

    Now my daughter is moving into that role

    And my niece is in that circle

    I have lots of girlfriends too but so little time for them

    Most I've known for years: college roomie, highschool pal, but also parents of my kids' friends

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  23. Ok. I'm now officially freaked out. I came to the blog through Farmer Julie and saw your profile and thought, "This is a woman that I have a lot in common with. I'll check out her blog". Now you have mentioned Julie and Julia. I can't believe you know about that! I loved the book and have read it several times and now am anxiously awaiting the movie. When I mention it to someone around here, they have no idea what I am talking about.

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